Animals fight over territory and strength. The harder you fight the stronger you are. If you can beat the opposite animal in your fight, you are deemed as the stronger animal. You are the winner and the other is... Well, dead. That's how the wild works. That's how these animals work.
Strangely, that's also how humans work. Isn't it funny that we are so much like animals when it comes to this quality? We fight and fight and fight and fight all the time with everyone, if we can. We'll fight over territory sure, and yes we fight over strength, but we fight over the smaller things BEFORE we'll fight over what matters. Think about it, we fight just like a lion or some other animal would fight. I mean we pay lawyers to fight for us. The better the lawyer, the better the possibility it is for us to win, for us to beat our opponent at this fight. Sure we don't usually kill each other, and I guess that's where the biggest difference lies.
We will fight over and over and over about the smallest subjects, about the weirdest little things and when we fight over things like this, the winner often feels like the loser, the weaker one when the fight is over. That's what makes us the stronger animals. When we fight over the dumb things and win, sure we won the battle, but ultimately we lose the war. It's the dumb little things that most of the time mean the most. It's the small things that lead to the big break ups. It's the small that make the large. The winner than becomes the loser somewhere in this process. Sure it may not come immediately, but you definitely feel it later, especially when the person you love is hurt.
It seems like that's another difference between us and animals. They fight over strength, but it's rarely a fight with family or loved ones. They share territory with their family and only fight when it comes to an enemy. They do all they can to actually protect the ones they love. It seems sometimes that we hurt those we love the most, and for no actual apparent reason sometimes. It seems like we fight all the time with those we love, and for what? If you look back on the fights you have with those you care most about, what was the final outcome? You can probably remember that, but what was the fight over? Nothing is usually the answer for me. I look back and see what we fought over and remember what happened in the end, but can't come to remember what the fight was about.
Why can't we just see the end from the beginning of the fight and decide if the ending is worth it? If we could step back, in the heat of the moment, and look at where the arguement is going, we would be stronger than the animals that fight over tough matters like strength and territory. I can't remember how many fights I've been in, but I need to take this principle in my life and learn to just let it go and move on. I need to learn that I love those people too much to let them go. I need to learn that I shouldn't fight with them over the small stuff that doesn't matter anymore. It always ends up hurting more than helping. I've never had a small fight that has ended in a happy manner, ever. I wish I could've thought of this earlier and realized that it's something that always hinders.
People say, don't keep things bottled up, it's bad for you to keep things in there for years. I say bottle them up and poke some holes in the top so you can let it out! There's no need to keep things bottled up. There's no need to let that bottle get so full it explodes. That's a whole mess of ugly that no one needs to experience or cause. Let drama stay on stage and out of your life. That's what'll bring you true happiness.
Try being more like an animal, it might help when it comes to arguements.
Food for thought :)
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