In 1958 there were two train crashes in the same week. Luckily, no passengers were injured or killed, but the trains were a wreck. Both were not totally destroyed, but they definitely needed some serious fixing up that's for sure. After all of the spilled materials were taken care of, the two companies each got seperate repair men to fix their destroyed trains. One of the repairmen went straight ahead and fixed it up. He didn't talk to anyone about pay or anything like that, he just did the work and finished fixing the train in a few days. His train was then carrying passengers a few days after it's full repair.
The second repair man decided to repair his train a little differently. He demanded pay first. When the company wouldn't give him what he wanted, he refused work. He knew they couldn't find anyone better, so he thought it would be better if he made his demands and remained stubborn until he thought the company would give in. Well, the company never did give in and the train he was asked to fix eventually just got taken apart and used in other machines. The man gave up his chance to fix his train wreck that would profit him. He gave it up because he refused to recieve less, he refused to fix something that wasn't going to be giong his way the whole time.
The first man not only fixed this train, but was able to repair many others and became a very happy man by inventing new, quick ways to fix these trains. He became a valuable resource and a very popular guy.
I promise, I"m not obsessed with trains. But let's compare these train wrecks, and their seperate repair men t relationships and the different ways to fix and or ruin a relationship.
If we follow the first mans actions and not ask what's in it for us, but rather enjoy the work we do and try to make the train or relationship stronger, we will end up fixing the relationship that might have been wrecked during one time or another. We can't always demand everything, we have to give and take. We also can't wait for it to fix itself, or be stubborn about getting all that you want. Just because you WANT something doesn't mean you NEED it. Most of the time we can do with out wants. Sometimes we need wants, but mostly we should focus on wanting needs. When we truly focuse on wanting needs, there we will find true happiness.
If we end up like the man who demands everything. Who won't work because the conditions aren't what he wanted, we will find ourselves very unhappy. He demanded and refused while the other complied and infused. He was able to infuse ideas and still was able to fix the train. He was a lot more successful because he saw the ETERNAL perspective.
Sometimes, when it comes to relationships, we have to not only give and take but give and give and give and give. It's alright. I don't understand why so many men decide that they HAVE to wear the pants. They have to be incharge. They're way too stubborn to actually admit they were wrong or even give when it comes fixing something. When being stubborn, you never really see the end, just the now.
So how many trains can you fix in a day? 1? 10? 1000? We all have different trains in our lives, we can only learn if we fix them correctly and do our best to keep them that way. In there will bring eternal happiness.
And by the way, I hate trains.
Food for thought :)
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